Is it really???

It’s difficult to turn your back to someone whom you really want to be with. To let someone feel he/she is neglected when in fact he/she is important. To show someone that you don’t mind when in fact you care a lot. To avoid someone when you want to take a stolen glance. To treat someone as an ordinary being or acquaintance when in fact he/she is really special. To let someone realize that his/her presence is naturally welcome when actually, it brings extraordinary excitement. To say things contrary to what you feel and to laugh when you want to cry your heart out….. whewww!

LOVE (a perspective)

There are some people who meet somebody that they can never stop loving, no matter how hard they try. I am not expecting everybody to understand that, or even believe it, but trust me on this… there are some love that basically don’t go away. And maybe that makes crazy for some, but if you end up with somebody who has a little of that insanity, somebody who never let go, be lucky for that…. For that somebody will cherish you forever.

Sometimes we look too far to find that one person we could share our love with, without realizing that of 10 times they are just in front of us, loving us quietly, all this time….Somebody told me once that “Finding the right person is very hard and very wrong …It is best to be the right person for the one you love and start from there….”You can never be perfect…. The person you love can never be perfect either… but both of you can be perfect through love and prayers, and your love can be perfect through the both of you. No relationship is complete without God….that’s why marriage exists…Marriage is a bond not only between you and your loved one…but also with God as the center.

Many relationships fail not because he or she is not the right person…it’s because we are expecting too much and we decided on our own…let God do the work…you may call it waiting time….but while you are waiting…. pray. Nobody can tell what love really is until experience speaks and whispers right into our ears.Don’t be in a hurry to get into a relationship because you can never find love if you insist that you are already into it. If you already knew that you’re too big to fit into a small sized t-shirt, don’t give it a try. You’ll probably break it and be held liable for the damages you have made. If you knew and felt at the very start that the relationship will not last, don’t go deeper into it. You’ll just suffer the consequences and live like hell the rest of your life.More frequently than not, we all act in a hypocritical manner for some reason. We call it love when we can’t leave someone and see them crying as we try to let go. We are wrong; it can probably be just pity. We call it love when we’re too attached and think that losing the one we love will somehow make us weak and unable to face the storms of life. We definitely misunderstood it… it’s just that we’re too much dependent to them. We call it love when we give our whole life to them, the wholeness of us and imagined that if they leave no one would accept us and our past. We are mistaken, its just insecurity.

Love isn’t something you can buy nor beg. It is real and existing. You can’t touch it but you can feel it right in your heart. You can’t find it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come. It can make you the happiest soul in heaven, but don’t forget that it also can make you the most miserable person in the whole world.

Disappointment...

December 11 was such a hard day for me. Aside from the backlogs I’ve got out of not working effectively due to sort of stuffs to be accomplished concerning my studies and laziness I guess, I’ve suffered from severe headache and fever. Gosh.. my head was terribly in pain that I have taken 3 capsules of bogessic and 1 bioflu the whole day. As such, I was not able to attend my class that evening for I decided to go home after work. Obviously, the following day, I was not able to work…. With much concern for myself of course, I went to the eye center for a check up. Guess, whaaattt??? My vision is no longer normal…huhuhu… 50 on my left eye and 100 on the right…(the most funny thing is that, when the Doctor’s attendant let me read the letters in front of me, I can no longer see it clearly. Instead of reading letter “B” I misinterpreted and read it as “E”..) hahahaha! wheeewww! And with number of tests, the Doctor found out that my right eye is very much irritated and there is already a scar on it. With that, I have to wear eyeglasses for my eyes’ protection and at the same time keep my eye from dryness and irritation with some sort of a liquid drops for every two hours… (haru jhusko!)

Hence, what really upset me is that, those whom I am expecting to text me, knowing they are my friends and ask if how I am doing that very day… did not even care to send a single message (sigh). Good thing, a close friend and a loved one asked if how I was doing. (At least, somebody cares for me though…) Haiz…, I was terribly disappointed. But for my consolation, another friend texted me late in the evenin. Nweiz, that’s what I’ve got from expecting too much from them. From now on I promise to myself that I will no longer pay too much concern for anybody, so when the time comes that I will need extra care and attention or comfort, I will no longer be disappointed. Haiz….

sW!nG of liE

I guess the most important things are the hardest things to say. Don't be afraid to tell other people that you love them. If you do, they might break your heart..... And if you won’t, you might break theirs. Your heart decides who it likes and who it doesn't. You can't tell your heart what to do. It does it on its own....when you least suspect it, or even when you don't want it to. Have you ever wanted to love someone with everything you had, but that other person was too afraid to let you? Or you are in a situation where someone loves you and you love him too but there’s another one that you love? (So complicated, right?) Too many of us stay walled up because we are too afraid to care too much….for fear that the other person does not care as much, or even at all. Have you ever denied your feelings for someone because your fear of rejection was too hard to handle or that you are not yet ready to give up the other? We tell lies when we are afraid... afraid of what we don't know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing we fear grows stronger. Life is all about risks and it requires you to jump. Don't be a person who has to look back and wonder what they would have done, or could have had.....

Things learned from intergender friendships (",)

THE PREMISE of this article lies on the principle that sometimes, loving a person doesn't mean it has to be romantic and loving a person for the rest of your life doesn't mean you have to end up marrying them. Is it possible for a man and a woman to be just friends? I'd say yes and they should be, nothing's wrong with that!

HINDI DAHIL KINAIBIGAN KA, LILIGAWAN KA NA. Not every guy who befriends you has an ulterior motive. Get over yourself. Don't be flattered. There is a reason or maybe reasons why he befriended you, but don't automatically assume that it's because he wants to be your so-called "boyfriend". If this will be the principle you'll follow every time someone asks you to be his friend, you're gonna miss a great deal from the friendship.

HINDI DAHIL MABAIT SAYO, NILILIGAWAN KA NA. There are people who are naturally sweet and kind. There are people who are innately good and no matter how wicked you seem, they just find it so easy to be kind to you. It doesn't mean he is courting you. Don't put yourself through unnecessary stress trying to figure out if he's courting you or not. Because I do think that if he is, you won't have to guess, you'll know and you'll be very certain about it.

HINDI DAHIL HE TALKS TO YOU A LOT, HE LOVES YOU NA (kiliig ka ba? eheh). You don't befriend a person if you absolutely abhor him, right? Chances are you make sense when he talks to you, or you're probably very patient listening to him. The two of you probably connect on some level but why does it always have to be assumed to be romantic? Being two intelligent, mature human beings, you need to accept that it's nice to share a cup of coffee over a stimulating conversation, and that you don't have to automatically put romantic connotation to it. Relieve yourself of the pressure. It's just coffee and a shared interest.

HINDI DAHIL CUTE OR MAY DATING ANG FRIEND MO, CRUSH/LOVE MO NA CYA. This is the most funny thing that hit me lately. People always assume that because your friend is cute or should I say, hot (because cute is a word you describe your high school crush while hot is a word you use to describe a hunk or someone who is appealing to your eyes), "lakas amats mo na for repapips!" Let me just say this, at least from my own personal experience and from my friends’ experiences as well. I'm just nearsighted; I haven't gone blind nor are my friends. We can still appreciate God's creation! However, there will always be weird things, crazy things, stupid things that will keep you, from having a crush on him, believe me. (hehehehe) First of all, you'd know his history with women, enough to judge what's good for you. Second, don't you just hate it when a guy who's absolutely cute, who looks intelligent enough but pronounces the word country as "kawntri" and the word mango as "meynggo." Call me crazy for judging a person just because he can't pronounce these words right. I admit, I'm crazy… And I also admit that I’m not that good in pronunciation (i frequently commit sort of “stuff” me things…) hahahaha

HINDI DAHIL YOU HANG OUT WITH EACH OTHER MOST OF THE TIME, YOU’D END UP BEING BOYFRIEND-GIRLFRIEND.. Self-explanatory... There are a thousand, or even million different reasons why things don't always turn out that way. There is no proven formula. For all you know, the reason why he likes hanging out with you is because he likes getting “kikay” tips from you. He probably plans on being “kikay” himself and he needs a mentor….. Wahahahahaha!

A DINNER OR EATING OUT WITH A GUY FRIEND DOES NOT NECESSARILY MEAN A DATE….. especially if you're paying for your share noh! Hello???? There are three things that you must consider: the place, the topic, and how the two of you actually planned to meet. First is how it was planned. If it were a date expect that he would ask you out at least three days before the actual date to give you some lead time, to give you the notion that you are not just a "filler" on his schedule. Second is the place. If it is a real date, both of you would want real food and a place where you could really talk things through. Don't go out with a guy to a movie on a Friday night if you're really serious about him. Going to a movie is more like treating him like a "filler" just because you had nothing to do on a Friday night so you might as well go out. Topic. Ha! You wouldn't be talking about chikang artista, chikang opisina or argue if the one girl's boobs are real or not. You would be probably talking about sensible and quite personal stuff. (davaaaahhhh???!)

PERO, HINDI DAHIL MAHAL NYO NA ANG ISA'T-ISA. PWEDE NA! They say friendship is the most fundamental factor in a boy-girl relationship. But before entering in a so-called commitment, make sure to know the situation first. Relationships that started with fire usually ends in a disaster. If your guy friend is not yet committed, then it is not bad to go out with him or to talk to him everyday or every minute. BUT if HE is already in a relationship, don’t get too close coz you may end up in the wrong track. In other words, KEEP YOUR DISTANCE. You can find so many fishes in the ocean that you can rightfully own. Always remember the golden rule your parents taught you: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you." It is the ultimate norm of high morality in our culture. Also, believe in the power of KARMA.. And for you BOY, always remember that a woman’s heart is fragile.. Don’t send false hopes to the girl. And before its to late, better end your relationship with the other or just be civil with your friend.

I therefore conclude that platonic relationships are never complicated; people just have tendencies to complicate them. Agreee????

Thoughts to Ponder...

Don't let someone become a priority in your life when you are just an option in their lives...

We make them cry who care for us...

We cry for those who never care for us...

And we care for those who will never cry for us.

This is the truth of life... it may sound so strange, but true.

Once you realize this, it is never too late to change.

Never explain yourself to anyone.....

Because the person who likes you doesn't need it,

And the person who dislikes you won't believe it.

Simply called LOVE....

Love... a small word for such a complex emotion.

There is no simple explanation for it,

because love is made up of many things.

It cannot be measured, because it is a feeling.

All of the money in the world cannot buy love;

it has to be earned.

It does not happen by wishing;

it must come about naturally.

Love is not an instantaneous emotion,

but something that grows slowly between

two people, maturing with time.

Once love has reached maturity,

there is no stronger bond between two people.

Love is sharing the good and the bad,

the hopes and the dreams,

the amusing times and the serious times.

It is doing things together, yet leaving room

for each to grow as an individual.

Why GOD allows pain

As I browsed mails from my inbox just a while ago, my attention was get caught by a mail coming from a friend. It was entitled “Why GOD allows pain.” Though my intention was just to erase all of the unnecessary messages thereat and proceed with my task, I can’t help myself but to open this particular mail. And with so many inspirational articles and stories that I have already read, I can consider this to be one of the best explanations of why GOD allows pain and suffering.

The story goes like this….

A man went to a barbershop to have his hair cut and his beard trimmed. As the barber began to work, they began to have a good conversation. They talked about so many things and various subjects. When they eventually touched on the subject of God, the barber said: "I don't believe that God exists."

"Why do you say that?" asked the customer. "Well, you just have to go out in the street to realize that God doesn't exist. Tell me, if God exists, would there be so many sick people? Would there be abandoned children?

If God existed, there would be neither suffering nor pain. I can't imagine a loving God who would allow all of these things." The customer thought for a moment, but didn't respond because he didn't want to start an argument. The barber finished his job and the customer left the shop.

Just after he left the barbershop, he saw a man in the street with long, stringy, dirty hair and an untrimmed beard. He looked dirty and unkempt. The customer turned back and entered the barber shop again and he said to the barber: "You know what? Barbers do not exist." "How can you say that?" asked the surprised barber. "I am here, and I am a barber. And I just worked on you!" "No!" the customer exclaimed. "Barbers don't exist because if they did, there would be no people with dirty long hair and untrimmed beards, like that man outside."

"Ah, but barbers DO exist! That's what happens when people do not come to me." "Exactly!" affirmed the customer. "That's the point! God, too, DOES exist! That's what happens when people do not go to Him and don't look to Him for help. That's why there's so much pain and suffering in the world."

A very good story indeed to reflect on…. Have a great day everyone! :)

EYES ---> window to the soul

It is said that the eyes are window to the soul

Through the eyes, we are able to see

the Past, Present, and Future.

In the eyes of the elderly

we see often see knowledge and life,

Knowledge of things that were and the things that are yet to be.

We see life as it was, full of love and sorrow,

full of understanding, and yet innocence can likewise be seen.

In the eyes of the youth we can see tomorrow,

we can see their hopes and their dreams that are yet to be fulfilled.

Their fears of who they really are

And who they will be.

In the eyes of men we can see pride

and their need to be loved.

We see the burden of family

and the little boy who yearns to be free.

In the eyes of women we see determination

and the fear for world that is full of harsh realities.

We see a mother's love and a daughter's devotion.

We see passion, fire, and a pride from within.

Yes, the eyes are truly windows to the soul

hence just like any window....

there's will always be a difference

each time you look from within.

Letting go...

There is dignity in not giving up on someone you truly love. But there is more dignity in letting them go so they can experience better love. That shows your true love because you then become unselfish And through putting others first, unconditional love grows.

There is respect in fighting gallantly to win someone's heart another time but an even greater respect comes from fighting hard and knowing when to stop. Even though you would give anything to have the past back, that person has touched your life in a way that will make your future so much brighter.

Accept that, and hold your head high knowing you have captured their heart as well.

There is courage in allowing your heart to hurt and grieve but there is greater courage in knowing it will be scarredbut stronger as time goes on. For whoever caused those scars has made your life better in some way and it will make you a better person when you marry because of what the scars taught you.

Losing the person who meant the most in your life is a humbling experience, yet it is even more humbling if you allow it to run your life and forsake all you have been blessed with when you feel l ike you have lost your world.

Remember how many people depend on you and who you are the world to. There is fortitude in holding on for another chance although an even greater fortitude comes from extending your hand and heart in friendship, realizing you will still share things with that person no one else ever will.

You will always have the looks and jokes and memories. Don't ever discount how special those things are in your heart and theirs. True love hurts when it is lost but an even greater love grows inside you through realization that something better is in the world for both of you.

And that there are still things to share with that person, even though some feelings may have changed. Take their hand and help them achieve their hopes and dreams because in that there is dignity, respect, courage, humility, fortitude, and the unconditional love that will continue to grow in both of your hearts.

How to stay young!

With our advanced technology nowadays great number of people most especially women resort to highly technological ways just to look good and stay young. But don't you know that aside from cosmetics that you apply, having your face lifted, undergoing a liposuction, breast augmentation, and the like, there still remains non-artificial ways just to stay young. you want to know what are those? Well, the following are indeed proven on how a person will stay young:

1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height.Let the doctor worry about them. That is why you pay him/her.
2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down.
3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. " An idle mind is the devil's workshop." And the devil's name is Alzheimer's.
4. Enjoy the simple things.
5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.
6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Be ALIVE while you are alive.
7. Surround yourself with what you love, whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever.Your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable,improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
9. Don't take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, to the next county, to a foreign country, but NOT to where the guilt is.
10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER: Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

Reason(s) behind...

Its difficult to turn your back to someone whom you really want to be with. To let someone feel he is neglected when in fact he is important. To show someone that you don’t mind when in fact you care a lot. To avoid someone when you want to take a stolen glance. To treat someone as an ordinary being when in fact he is really special. To let someone realize that his presence is naturally welcome when it brings extraordinary excitement. To say things contrary to what you feel and to laugh when you want to cry your heart out.

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These are the things that drive me to have an account here. It is indeed difficult to hide your true feelings for someone whom you really love. But then, it is quite alright to do so if you think that you'll be hurting someone else. I'm not the type of person whom others think to be as an easy go lucky. Many would see me to be always smiling, giggling and laughing. Well, it is just one of my defense mechanisms to hide what is really within me. It is very difficult to wear a mask. But then, on this way, everyone around me is happy.

Writing my thoughts can be one of my great avenues to feel relieved at least for once. I no longer tell lots of stories to my friends most especially on heart matters for they might say, "oh well, here she goes again, duh!" Pathetic, isn't it?

But then, it is not only heart matters on which i'm going to post here. Anything under the sun will do. As long as it catches my interest. hehehe

GOODLUCK on my adventure here in the blogger world! Eheh