Losing the "romance"

This was emailed to me by a friend...
Touchy story that will melt your heart.

Here it goes...

My husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady
nature, and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.

Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have
to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him
before, Has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a
relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband, is my complete opposite,
his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments
into our marriage has disheartened me about love. One day, I finally
decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.

"Why?" he asked, shocked. "I am tired, there are no reasons for
everything in the world!" I answered. He kept silent the whole night,
seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times.
My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can't
even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him? And finally
he asked me:" What can I do to change your mind?" Somebody said it
right, it's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have
started losing faith in him.

Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered : "Here is the
question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind,
Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, a
nd we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for
me?"

He said :" I will give you your answer tomorrow...." My hopes just
sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper
with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table
near the front door, that goes....

My dear,

"I would not pick that flower for you, but please
allow me to explain the reasons further.."

This first line was already breaking my heart. I
continued reading.

"When you use the computer you always mess up the
Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen,
I have to saved my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.


You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have
to save my legs to rush home to open the door for
you.

You love traveling but always lose your way in a
new city, I have to save my eyes to show you the way.

You always have the cramps whenever your "good
friend" approaches every month, I have to save my palms so
that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.

You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will
be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my
mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your
boredom.

You always stare at the computer, and that will do
nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes
so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your
nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So
I can also hold your hand while strolling down the
beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful
sand... and tell you the color of flowers, just
like the color of the glow on your young face...

Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is
someone who loves you more than I do... I could not pick
that flower yet, and die.. "

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his
handwriting... and as I conntinue on reading...

"Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you
are satisfied, please open the front door for I am
standing outside bringing your favorite bread and
fresh milk...

I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching
tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread.... Now I am very
sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided
to leave the flower alone...

That's life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of
excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies
in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has
never been a model, it could be the most dull and boring form...
flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the
relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands... and that's
our life... Love, not words win arguments...

When it happened....

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there…to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out whom you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be but you lock eyes with them, you know that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way. And sometimes things happen to you at the time that may seem horrible, painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would never realize your potential, strength, will power or heart.

Well, everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of luck. Illness, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test limits of your soul. Without these small tests, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere safe and comfortable but dull and utterly pointless. Basically, the people you meet affect your life. The successes and downfalls that you experience can create who you are, and the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact they are probably the most poignant and important ones.

If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious as to whom you will open your heart.

If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but also because they are teaching you to love and open your heart and eyes to the little things around you.

Make every day count. Appreciate everything that you possibly can, for you may never experience it again. Talk to people whom you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you. You can make anything you wish of your life. Create your own life and then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets. If you love someone tell them, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store. Learn a lesson in life each day that you live! Today is the tomorrow you were worried about yesterday.

“Its your HEART that makes you the BEST. You’re wonderful according to what YOU ARE not what you HAVE.”

“Treasure everything special to you… Make as many memories as you can. ‘Coz remember… LIFE IS not MEASURED by the breaths we take, but BY WHAT TAKES OUR BREATH AWAY!”

Lastly, “make GOD as the center of everything because LIFE is a walk to remember. Our tomorrows are determined by the steps we take each day. And the good news is – GOD will walk with us every step of the way.”

Complexities of LOVE

Love is the biggest oxymoron of all. How is it an oxymoron? Well, let us see…

Oxymoron is a figure of speech that entails two normal but contradicting facts. In a way, oxymoron is also like an ironic situation or statement.

A great poet once authored a loving and very ironic piece on love being an oxymoron, all the while enumerating the many reasons why people keep falling.

According to this poet, people basically keep falling because of the many ironies of love. We fall only when we start standing up for love. We fall only when we start climbing the mountainous complexities of love. That is how love is an oxymoron. Because whatever you say about it, no matter how different they are, would always stay true. It is hard to explain, yet it’s easy enough to understand.

It is easy to fall in love; however it is also hard to be in love. We seem to easily fall in love with someone who would not even give us the time of day but cannot find the a place in our heart to give a chance to a person who seems to love us so much and would do anything for us.

You do not know how love works because it is too confusing but yet you understand its inner workings in your heart and life.

When we fall in love, we find it irritating that people who does not necessarily approve of our relationship with the other person, keeps bugging us with reasons why we fell in love. But in the end we keep telling them, that we do not have any reason why we fell in love, we just know that we do. But when someone really supportive of our relationship asks why we fell in love with a certain person, we easily enumerate the many reasons why we love that person.

It’s funny that when we fall in love, we try to tell the other person that we love them for what they are and change would not be necessary. Then again on the course of the relationship itself, we make simple comments about how much of a slob the other person is, or how she does not make an effort to look pretty. And when this argument is brought up (about not changing) the most common reason we hear is that I am not trying to change you, I just want you to be a better person. Is becoming a better person quintessential to both parties?

Even those who faithfully pursued their beloved feel the irony of love. After endless days of hoping and praying for the day that the other person will feel the same way, the magical time comes and they become blissful. For the first time the sun seems to shine from the perfect spot, the wind seems to blow with just the right breeze... they now feel how blissfully wonderful it is to be alive, yet they feel that they could die any moment too.

And when we are really in love, the simple things affect us in simple ways. We say that the immensity of the problem, however miniscule the problem is, makes it unbearable for us to continue with the relationship. Nevertheless, when our partner apologizes and promises to change for the nth time, we tell ourselves and everyone around us, that there is nothing that we cannot handle.

And when one is just about done with the many hurt that love has brought upon their lives, suddenly love twists it all around and the almost perfect significant other comes cruising to your life.

But the funniest and weirdest part of falling in love would have to be how love can make us all knowing and stupid at the same time. For many of us, we could not even begin to start counting the countless times that we spent handing out advices to friends and people close to us about their love problems, but when it finally happens to us, we find ourselves, lost for words.

Even the geniuses are baffled with love, because as much as love is an oxymoron, sometimes it causes us to be morons. It is funny but also sad and
true.